Holiday Mood Swing
Tis the season to clean house, bake cookies, and shop to you drop. I love this time of year! Not for the excitement of receiving, but I truly enjoy the ambience the season provides.
Holidays are regarded as the most wonderful time of the year. Holidays are also said to be a time for family. My experience has led me to see that the term family is in the eye of the beholder. It has only been the past few years that I have truly appreciated the feelings that come with this time of year. For many others like myself, past holidays have not been so joyful.
I recall arguments, rude comments, and tears regarding most holidays. Yet, I also remember smiling and an atmosphere of gladness to see folks, only seen sporadically throughout the year. But the mixture of emotions did and still can present stressful emotions for me.
To sum it up, the holidays made me anxious. Not the OMG, I can’t wait for pumpkin pie or what did Santa bring me kind of anxiousness. But the, I am sick to my stomach type of anxiety.
I found that I did not want to go anywhere Thanksgiving or Christmas cheer would be present. I was not trying to be Scrooge. I just did not want to be bothered with the ho-hum, of getting myself all worked up, only to combat the lurking word war within my family that became a staple during the holiday gatherings.
If this time of year finds you feeling the need to isolate, I want to ensure you that you are not alone. If the holidays have become one big commercial for you, a mere marketing technique to conjure up excitement that is just not there – my friend, you are in good company.
There were Christmas decoration sightings in mid-October and we have yet to carve the turkey and the jingles bells are ever present. Therefore the season is officially among us.
I have included some techniques that I use to get me through these times.
3 Tips to Swing the Holidays
- Define what the holidays really mean to you. If you are thankful, jot down what it is that you are thankful for. For me personally, end of the year celebrations are a time to thank God for loving me enough to send Jesus to the earth on my behalf. I have a list that I reflect upon in order to steer me from grumpiness. Intentionally reflecting on these moments, smells, and people demonstrate simple instances, exploding into great magnificence. Oprah uses a Gratitude Journal. Here you simply write down five things each day that you are grateful for. I do it during this time of year especially.
- Don’t spread yourself to thin. Thanksgiving is always the last Thursday in November; Christmas will always show up on December 25th. If you have several households to visit, don’t do it all in one day! Sometimes folks just have to understand there is only one you and the turkey or the presents won’t be offended if you enjoy them a few days before or a few days after. This is the case with blended families. Being at your own house is not a crime during the holidays. Plan your holiday season in a way that logistically works for your family. This is an easy way to avoid stress.
- Discover what moves your holiday mood. Despite the Hallmark commercials, holidays do not bring natural feelings of warm fuzziness for some of us. Being grateful and thankful can bring a great joy. However, it took me a while to get to this point. Of course I love to see my children open their gifts and receive hugs from people they probably don’t remember. But I also know that someone is feeling the same anxiety that I used to feel about the holidays.
Despite the experiences we have from holidays past, we can successfully make the forthcoming seasons bright. This must be intentional. This can be the most wonderful time of the year for you and me.
In what ways do you make this season bright? I cant wait to hear your stories.